The Missing Rib

I want to share this nice story that I found over DSIM's blog while doing my entrecard dropping. I think it's an inspiring story that shares to us that PRIDE and ANGER influences us to make hasty decisions out of impulsiveness. And usually regrets from this decision takes place later on wherein we then realized the importance of one's worth in our lives when it's already too late to reunite. Time is truly essential in our lives. Let's open our hearts and minds and learn from this story.

A girl in love asked her boyfriend...

Girl : Tell me... whom do you love most in this world?
Boy : You, of course!
Girl : In your heart, what am I to you?

Boy : The boy thought for a moment and looked intently in her eyes and said, "You are my rib. In the Bible, it was said that God saw that Adam was lonely, during his sleep; God took one of Adam's rib and created Eve. Every man has been searching for his missing rib, only when you find the woman of your life; you'll no longer feel the lingering ache in your heart."

After their wedding, the couple had a sweet and happy life for a while. However, the youthful couple began to drift apart due to the busy schedule of life and the never-ending worries of daily problems... their life became mundane.... All the challenges posed by the harsh realities of life began to gnaw away their dreams and love for each other...The couple began to have more quarrels and each quarrel became more heated.

One day, after the quarrel, the girl ran out of the house... At the opposite side of the road, she shouted, "You don't love me!"

The boy hated her childishness and out of impulse, retorted, "Maybe, it was a mistake for us to be together! You were never my missing rib!"

Suddenly, she turned quiet and stood there for a long while...He regretted what he said but words spoken are like thrown away water, you can never take it back. With tears, she went home to pack her things and was determined in breaking-up. Before she left the house, "If I'm really not your missing rib, please let me go...She continued, "It is less painful this way... let us go on our separate ways and search for our own partners."

Five years went by....

He never remarried but he had tried to find out about her life indirectly...She had left the country and back... She had married a foreigner and divorced...He felt anguished that she never waited for him. In the dark and lonely night, he lit his cigarette and felt the lingering ache in his heart. He couldn't bring himself to admit that he was missing her.

One day, they finally met... At the airport, a place where there were many reunions and good-byes...He was going away on a business trip. She was standing there alone, with just the security door separating them. She smiled at him gently.

Boy: How are you?
Girl: I'm fine. How about you - have you found your missing rib?
Boy: No.
Girl: I'll be flying to New York on the next flight.
Boy: I'll be back in 2 weeks time. Give me a call when you are back... You know my number... Nothing has changed.

With a smile, she turned around and waved good-bye... Good-bye.....One week later, he heard of her death. She had perished in New York - in the event that shocked the world (9/11).

Midnight... he lit another cigarette... And like before, he felt the lingering ache in his heart....He finally knew, she was the missing rib that he had carelessly discarded and thrown away ...

Sometimes, people say things in of moments of fury... More often than not, the outcome could be disastrous and detrimental...We vent our frustrations 99% at our loved ones...And even though we know that we ought to "think twice and act wisely", it's often easier said than done. Things happen each day, many of which are beyond our control.... Let us treasure every moment and everyone in our lives.... Tomorrow may never come; give and accept what you have today.

"Men stumble over pebbles, never over mountains."
- Emilie Cady

*Photo credit to rude_and_reckless of deviantart.

Engaged Couples With The Same Name

While browsing online awhile ago, it was amazing to have read this certain article that there is a couple who have the same name who will be getting married sometime this October. Kelly Hildebrandt, a girl from Coral Springs and Kelly Hildebrandt from Lubbock, Texas, met on Facebook. Both were searching for people on facebook with the same name as theirs. These two started to exchanged messages and met personally. They felt a romantic connection between them and now they are looking forward for their wedding this year. How lovely! More of their love story here.

Waiting For Something is Hard

"it's hard to wait around for something that you know might not happen but it's even harder to give up,when you know it's everything you ever wanted."

*Photo credit to louvre89 of deviantart.

Be In Control

Here's an interesting post I found in facebook about men. I think this post has a sense in it that women should take into consideration in dealing with men. We should be more in control of ourselves and shouldn't be under control of someone else especially with men. And no, I'm not a man hater. Haha.

• If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away.
• If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay.
• Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior.
• Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.
• Stop trying to change yourself for a relationship that's not meant to be.
• Slower is better.
• Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy.
• If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then heck no, you can't "be friends".
• A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend. Don't settle.
• If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is.
• Don't stay because you think "it will get better."
• You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better.
• The only person you can control in a relationship is you.
• Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women.
• He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant, why would he treat you any differently?
• Always have your own set of friends separate from his.
• Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you.
• If something bothers you, speak up.
• Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later.
• You cannot change a man's behavior.
• Change comes from within.
• Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are...even if he has more education or in a better job.
• Do not make him into a quasi-god.
• He is a man, nothing more nothing less.
• Never let a man define who you are.
• Never borrow someone else's man.
• If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you.
• A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.
• All men are NOT dogs.
• You should not be the one doing all the bending...compromise is a two way street.
• You need time to heal between relationships...there is nothing cute about baggage...
• Deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship.
• You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you...
• a relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals...
• look for someone complimentary...
• not supplementary.
• Dating is fun...
• even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr. Right.
• Make him miss you sometimes...
• when a man always know where you are, and you're always readily available to him - he takes it for granted.
• Never move into his mother's house.
• Never co-sign for a man.
• Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need.
• Keep him in your radar but get to know others.

Share this with other women and men (just so they know)...

Trusting Again...

Back in college, I learned that in our infancy stage, we develop TRUST. It's as simple as the form of crying when we were hungry or peed in our diapers that we get our parents' attention. And by their loving response of feeding us and of changing our diapers we learn to trust them.

But as we were growing, certain factors has affected our ability to trust people. Especially when we have been hurt, cheated and betrayed in the past that we learn to build a wall within ourselves to protect us from getting hurt again. But as I was watching Bo Sanchez's preach, I was inspired with his words of encouragement that we need to trust other people again carefully despite our trusting issues.

With that we'll learn to live our life fully and grow. In reality, people in our lives come and go. And there will always be some people who will betray us, cheat on us and even hurt us again. But there are also good people.

According to Bo, if you don't trust and risk getting hurt, you won't received blessings. Learn to open yourself to others, lower your defenses and learn to trust again. Life is a risk. Risking yourself of getting hurt again is the same as risking yourself to be loved again.


*Photo credit to *gabbyd70 of deviantart.

I Need A Man Who Can't Be Moved

Isn't it flattering to know that your man is going to wait for you no matter what happens? He 's still inlove with you after years has passed. It may sound unrealistic but I think there's quite a number of them that exists. I need a man who can't be moved despite of his heartaches he's still hoping and waiting for me to come back. How mushy me! Haha. But that's what this song is about, "The Man Who Can't Be Moved" by The Script.

10 Habits of A Loving Couple

As a couple, getting used to being thoughtful, loving and caring with each other helps your relationship to grow. It is important for the couple to show each other their love and care for each other because we all need assurance and security from our partner.

According to Alanna Webb, romance is a way to express your love, the icing on the cake... but don't wait for special occasions to express your love. Make sure that you nurture your loving relationship by practicing these basic habits in your day-to-day life. These may seem very basic, but how many do you do? Don't despair... it's never too late to adopt good, loving habits.

1. Say 'I Love You' at least once a day. Your partner does need to hear the words.

2. Kiss good-bye and hello. Throw in a hug while you're at it.

3. 'Date' your partner for the rest of your lives. Treat your partner even better than when you were dating... Remember that you are sweethearts ~ * open her door * straighten his tie * hold out her chair * hold hands when you're walking together

4. Don't sweat the small stuff. You can let his/her bad habits bother you to distraction... or you can accept them, and work around them. Does she leave the cap off the toothpaste? Buy separate tubes... Does he leave clothes laying around? Ignore them, or pick them up, remembering just how much he does for you in other ways. Or, make it easier for your partner to satisfy you... buy several clothes hampers and keep them handy. ;-)

5. Concentrate on the positive. Instead of thinking about the ways that s/he lets you down, think of all the positive things about your partner that drew you to them in the first place.

6. Take a breather when you're mad. Don't try to talk when either of you are angry. Take a few minutes to walk around the block, lay down, just get away from each other so you can regroup. A short break will allow you both to stay on track and discuss what's bothering you instead of accidently making personal insults that you will regret later.

7. Don't use your partner's secrets or weaknesses against them... ever! What may seem insignificant, trivial, or cute to you may be serious to your partner. Recognize what is important to your partner, and don't discuss it with your friends, mother, his family, anyone! And certainly don't throw the words back at them in an argument. A loving relationship is one of the most intimate and trusting that anyone can have.

8. Think about your partner first. If both of you do this, then you can't help but win! Say 'yes' to your partner as often as possible... go to that sports event with him, get him out on that golf course because he loves golf, make life easier for your partner, and hopefully they will do the same for you!

9. R-E-S-P-E-C-T your partner. Don't badmouth your partner to anyone! When you talk about your partner, let your respect and love shine through.

10. Find a way to regroup together every day. Discover what works well for you both... eat a meal together, meet for happy hour drinks, skip Leno at night and just lay in bed in the dark, take a walk around the block, etc. You can even mix things up and vary your routine. If one of you is travelling, call home at night just to hear their voice. The point is to spend time together daily, just talking or breathing the same air, feeling connected.

Remember... the more you put into your relationship, the more you gain! Make love and romance a part of your daily life!

*Credit to Suzette Gin of Multiply and photo credit to obscurity_n of deviantart.